It's time to let go in 2020
At the end of every December, I always find myself thinking about the goals I’m going to set for myself in the upcoming year. I think about what I’m going to achieve, what I’m going to build and what positive habits I’m going to integrate into my life. This isn’t just me, but this is the common (and highly encouraged) mentality leading into January. Resolutions are on the forefront of our minds and everyone is squeezing in their last bite of cake before the clock strikes midnight on December 31st.
This year, as I reflect on the impending New Year, I am recognizing that the people I surround myself with are already super high-level and seem to be full of resolve year round to be the best versions of themselves. Everyone I know is cooking ‘clean,’ working difficult jobs, attempting to provide healthy food for their families, trying to keep a tidy home, thinking about giving back, fitting in exercising, conscious about health, choosing wellness and practicing mindfulness. Everyone is yoga-ing, or doing crossfit, or running Town Lake, or getting outside, or meditating, or ‘working on themselves’ or eating paleo, or trying to be plant-based, or choosing non-toxic products, or cutting out sugar, or looking for aluminum-free deodorant, or, or or.… 24/7, myself and the people in my community seem to be focused on how we can be better and how we can do better.
When I stop and think about it, I recognize how much we are ALL already doing. LIFE. IS. HARD, y’all. Life is hard. Modern living requires non-stop upkeep. We are connected in perpetuity and we are constantly inundated with images and ideas of how we can be doing better. So, as I contemplate 2020 today, I wonder why we are using the New Year to put MORE pressure on ourselves? We are ALL already just doing the best we can.
So, for your 2020 New Year's Resolution, I’d like to encourage you to think about what you can SHED from your life instead of what you should add. I'd like for you to think about what you can release from your life that no longer serves you.
Thinking about what you can leave behind in 2019 to make room for the newness of 2020 will make you feel lighter, stronger, and ready to combat any challenges that lie ahead. If you still decide to commit to a traditional resolution this year, I want you to remember that you are already crushing it out there! You are doing your very best every day, so be kind to yourself, regardless of how it goes.
Happy New Year!
P. S. Personally, when I have a behavior, a thought or a mindset I want to release, a little ceremony helps me to feel like I'm fully let go. My favorite ceremony is writing my commitment on a piece of paper and lighting it on fire. I do this safely, of course, bringing my intention to my fireplace or the fire pit in my yard. Fire helps me to visualize fully letting go. When I see the piece of paper burning with gentle flames, it feels like I’ve made a finite resolve, and I find it helps me stick to my commitments. If you give this a shot, I'd love to hear about it! Shoot me a note so I can hear about your experience in "letting go" for 2020.